Question: I’m dating, and I really like this guy. But I don’t think he finds me attractive, and I’m afraid that the relationship will soon end. What can I do?

Answer: It’s actually not my practice to offer advice on such matters, but I can share one or two interesting thoughts with you:

The way a person appears to someone else with whom he or she is close doesn’t seem to have all that much to do with outward appearance. Rather, a long-term relationship in which good feelings are mutually enjoyed week after week and year after year is generally built on a sense of respect and a cheerful, happy rapport. Sure, there is in society a fixation on outward attractiveness (and there probably always was), but long-term relationships- the type you probably really desire – are built on a far wider range of factors.

I hope that this is somehow helpful.

With my best regards,
Rabbi Boruch Clinton
Ottawa, Canada