LifeCycle Events
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Loss of a Spouse
How does one find purpose in ones life after the loss of a spouse? Allow me to offer you my consolations. The Talmud says that “A spouse dies only to their spouse” by which it means that when, say, parents…
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Yahrzeit Candle
Could you please confirm the holidays when we light a Yahrzeit candle in memory of a deceased family member? Every year on the Hebrew anniversary of their passing a 24 hr. memorial candle is lit from sundown to nightfall, as…
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Purification Before Marriage
I have been studying the Jewish wedding customs. In my study, I have come to understand that there are certain purification rites for a virgin before her marriage. In fact, the purification process is carefully practiced by all married (or…
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Tombstones
Is there anything in the Torah or Talmud about the necessity of having a headstone on a grave? Did the Sages comment on the importance of such memorials? Thank you for your question. The concept of having a headstone or…
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Virginity and Marriage
I was wondering what role does virginity play in Judaism, and why, if it does at all, it plays such an important role? The answer to your question depends on how you define “roleâ€?: does one’s lack of virginity automatically…
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Bride Walks Around Seven Times
What is the origin of the custom that a bride walks around her groom seven times during a wedding? The custom of the bride walking around the groom seven times is from the Kabbalah. See Tikunei Zohar (6, 23a) in…
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Soul Mates
I always heard that each Jewish person born has a Soul Mate. Please explain the following. Why do people get divorced? I think it’s fair to describe the existence of “soul mates” (Zivug) as an opportunity rather than a guarantee.…