I would like to know how I am suppose to honor my parents if they are abusive, mean and hateful. I haven’t been the best example to follow because there has been so much pain… I want to heal now and let go… I love them so much and I have over looked the abuse hoping they would change, but after 50 years they still have not changed. Dad and Mom have both divorced when I was about 7yrs and have remarried… all my siblings have followed.
May I suggest that an experienced logo-therapist in your area might be able to help you find the meaning in this challenging situation. I hope that you will find your mission and your calling in the midst of all of this pain. Suggesting therapy is a bit of a cliche, but you sound like you would really like to rise above the pain and the abuse and sometimes we have a hard time doing that on our own.
Wishing you strength and wisdom,
Ephraim