Why is it that God is always referred to as “He” or “Him” and not as “She” or “Her”?
Firstly, it must be understood that since Judaism holds that God has no physical form, He (obviously) lacks genitalia, and can be neither male or female from a biological point of view. It must also be understood that Hebrew doesn’t have a gender-neutral pronoun, such as “it” in English. Therefore, in Hebrew, as is the case with many languages such as French and Italian, the male gender is the default pronoun when neither male or female, or both male and female, are implied. God, being neither male nor female, is therefore correctly described using the default “He” and “Him”.
However, there is a much deeper philosophy underlying the use of the male pronoun. In the biblical book of “The Song of Songs”, King Solomon describes the love of a young man and woman who attempt to get together despite all the obstacles placed in their way. The story is a metaphor of the relationship between God and the Jewish People. The man in the story represents God, so to speak, and the woman represents the Jewish soul. Therefore, it follows that we generally refer to God in the masculine form.