I am 21 years old, and I wanted to know what I can do or say to help me find a husband soon. I have been saying the morning prayers everyday and say selections from Tehillim (Psalms). If there is something else I can do please let me know.
You are certainly aiming in the right direction by praying etc. While you are waiting for your husband to arrive (and remember: right now he’s waiting just as anxiously for you!), you could first of all see if there’s any obvious way to turn the whole ordeal into an opportunity for growth. Perhaps throwing yourself into some project through which you can help other people and ease the pain in their lives is just what G-d has been waiting to see.
I remember once reading a story about a fellow whose store was attracting no customers, leading to ever increasing tension. Someone told him that he wasn’t providing any incentive for the “evil inclination” to send him customers as his primary job – getting the businessman to avoid Torah learning – was already being done for him. Perhaps, the advice went, if the fellow would bring a volume of Talmud into the store every day and learn seriously, the customers would come if only to make that spiritual practice more difficult for him!
It could be that there’s some extra Mitzvah practice that you could adopt as your own (see, by the way, my essay on that subject here) which would, at the same time, allow you to grow ever greater and provide an incentive for the “evil inclination” to send along some distraction from it…maybe, for instance, a husband.
Finally, be aware that these things always appear very bleak while people are still in the thick of it. However, they nearly always work out well enough and, from the “other side” they will appear very different. I hope that you will soon have good news to report and I’m confident that, in any case, you will use this experience well.
With my best wishes,
Rabbi Boruch Clinton
Ottawa, Canada