Question: Some body told me when a person dies, he face problems in his grave, like fire and other dangerous things if he did bad in his life, and he gets rewards in the grave if he was a good person. Living people can not see this, and it is called the “qeber”? (he said QEBER is word of hebrew language and it means `Grave`). Is it true ? Is it in torah ? If it is , then please send me details?
Answer: Thank you for your question. The word “kever” in Hebrew does mean grave.
This idea, however, of fires and terrible things happening to you in your grave is not Jewish as far as I have ever learned. Judaism believes that a person should spend their life perfecting themselves and getting closer to G-d. To the extent that they accomplish that they experience a oneness with G-d. To the extent, however, that a person is distanced from G-d and is far from Him, that is hell. It is almost like seeing the person you love most in the world right in front of you, but they are behind glass that you cannot break through to get to them. To the extent that we reach out for G-d and purge ourselves of evil, we are given the gift of G-d’s closeness. To the extent that we live a life remiss of holiness we suffer in the afterlife through a lack of closeness – that spiritual lacking is hell. There is no fire or devil with horns. The distance between your soul and Your Creator is worse than any fire in this world. That is a true hell. So, when a person dies their body and soul separate. Their soul goes to a world of souls and their bodies stay in the ground, waiting for the resurrection. There is no punishment for the body once the body and soul separate. I am not sure where your information comes from, but it is not Judaism.
Be Well,
Rabbi Gershon Litt