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The Ancient Jewish Wedding

Question

What was the courting and betrothal procedure in time of the Roman empire, ca. 100 to 300 AD? What was the waiting time?

Answer

The Jewish wedding has two parts: the Eirusin, or engagement, followed by the Nesuin, the actual marriage. In Biblical times these were two separate ceremonies, as much as a year apart from each other. Today they are combined into a single ceremony on the same day. In olden days the couple were effectively married after the engagement but lived separately, without any physical contact. During that time a home would be prepared, after which the marriage ceremony would be held and the bride would be brought into her new accommodations. Today what we call “engagement” is not a wedding in the sense of Eirusin, but the effective relationship is established almost simultaneously at the end.

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Eliahu Levenson

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