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Prayer and Repentance

Question

Whenever I do something I know is wrong, I feel horrible the next day. I was wondering if there are any prayers I can say or anything that the Torah provides that can make you feel better? Is there anything to help you be able to have to strength to move on and not make the same mistake again?

Answer

The fact that you feel so bad afterwards is a sign that your soul is pure and you haven’t become callous to your spirituality. What you are describing is the essence of Teshuva, repentance. We have a prayer for that in the Amidah – “selach lanu,” “Forgive us.”

You can also pray and repent in your own words. The three basic components of repentance are:

1. To feel bad about what you did.
2. To speak out your sin between yourself and G-d.
3. To accept upon yourself to avoid this sin in the future.

If you acted against another person, you must also ask forgiveness from them.

Rabbi Meir Goldberg

Follow-up question

Question

I have heard that there are three forms of repentance. One of them being tzedakah (charity). Why does charity in a way of speaking cancel out sin?

Answer

Actually, charity doesn’t cancel out sin. It will help wipe away any remnants of sin once one has repented. Repentance has many levels based on the sincerity and intensity of the sinner. Charity adds an added dimension of repentance so long as one has done the three basic levels of repentance first.

Rabbi Meir Goldberg